Time to move again.....

I just wanted to let all of you know that posting may slow down here over the next week or so, as I’ll be moving to Charlotte, North Carolina for six months.This hit me kind of fast, and so I’ve been rapidly packing my things since last night. Moving is not my favorite thing, even though I have moved ample times in my life. Anyway this time is different, only thing I know is the company I am going to work and the hotel which I will be staying for up to a week. So far I’ve started packing half of suitcase, managed to keep my things down to the minimum. .. basic necessities, like clothes, hygiene products, etc. and my entire computer related items. I want to take all the books, then I realized...only going for six months. it may sound long. but it goes quicky..once I started getting used to Charlotte, it is time to move back again. Anyway I am looking forward to work in Charlotte, the queen city as I heard it has a nice and friendly southern charm. Anyway,i am going to miss, reading all the wonderful blogs for a while, but I will be back guys ..until then Keep Blogging....

Jealousy....

"Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment"

"Jealousy comes from self-love rather than from true love"

"Jealousy is a tiger that tears not only its prey but also its own raging heart"

"There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy"-- Lope de Vega

"Love may exist without jealousy, although this is rare; but jealousy may exist without love, and this is common"

"Jealousy is always born with love, but does not always die with it” -- François de Rochefoucauld

"Plain women are always jealous of their husbands. Beautiful women never are. They are always so occupied with being jealous of other women's husbands"--Oscar Wilde quotes

"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening" --Maya Angelou

"Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty.” François de la Rochefoucauld

"Like hatred, jealousy is forbidden by the laws of life because it is essentially destructive”-Alexis

"My wife's jealousy is getting ridiculous. The other day she looked at my calendar and wanted to know who May was" --Rodney Dangerfield

“Cruelty has a human heart, And jealousy a human face Terror, the human form divine, And secrecy, the human dress” -- William Blake quote

“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality . Wake Up and Live!” -- Bob Marley

Lessons of Life

The following pics are of the same place but taken under different seasons

Spring & Summer Season

Autumn & Winter Season

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfilment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right,because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.

He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfilment of your fall.

Moral:

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judgethe life by one difficult season.

Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later

The Turkey and the Bull

A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy.

"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull.

"They're packed with nutrients."

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fortnight, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the Story: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

Bloom in a drought....

How do I explain

this bloom upon the rose,

that clings against all odds

this endless drought bestows?

Just holding on with hope

that rains will fall again,

before she hits the dust

where her tender life will end

But rain has left this bloom

to struggle on her own,

with only hopes and prayers

she clings to life alone.

She holds on with a dream

the day sweet drops will fall,

to ease her aching thirst

her petals cry out for.

So fragile with her pain

so lonely with her need,

that just one tender touch

would cause her heart to bleed.

The rains she knows so well

seem nowhere in her sight,

but still she finds the strength

to not give up the fight.

Alone she blooms her smile

to hide away her fears,

she'll flower while she can

no moisture left for tears . . .

Opportunity

A priest was driving along and saw nun on the side of the road. He stopped and offered her a lift which she accepted. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing the habit to open and reveal a leg. The priest looks and nearly has an accident, and after changing gear lets his hand slide up her leg.

She immediately says, "Father, remember Psalm 129".

The priest says sorry and removes his hand but is unable to remove his eyes from her leg. Further on when he changes gear and has ogled at her leg for the zillionth time he lets the hand slide up the leg again.

The Nun once again says, "Father remember Psalm 129".

Arriving at the convent the nun gets out and the priest goes on his way. Once he arrives at his church he rushes to the bible and looks up Psalm 129 and it said, "GO FORTH AND SEEK, FURTHER UP YOU WILL FIND GLORY"


Moral of the Story: In your job should always be well informed or you may miss a great opportunity

How to Handle a Cheating Girlfriend

There is more to life than living out the lyrics of a country and western song. If her cheatin' heart is more than you can stand, it is time for you to change your tune or face the music.

Think about the source of your suspicion. If you "heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who heard it from another she's been messin' around," look for more reliable information.

Make sure that jealousy and insecurity are not making you falsely accuse someone you care about.

Trust your instincts. If you think that your girlfriend is cheating on you, then ask her. If her answer is, "Oh, no honey. Of course not! How could you even ask such a thing? You know I love you and only you (kiss-kiss)," but you simply don't believe her, make sure your mistrust is based on something you witness or experience.

Noticing a change in your relationship or her behavior would make your suspicion reasonable. Seeing her with someone else, who looks clearly to be more than a friend, is pretty solid evidence.

Consider your physical health and emotional well-being. Could she be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases? Can you deal with being one of many?

Think about what you would tell a sibling or a best friend to do in your situation. Is fear keeping you from following your own advice?

Discuss your feelings with your girlfriend. Tell her how her cheating is affecting you. Explain what you're looking for in this relationship.

Listen to what she has to say. Her response to your concerns should give you the information you need to do what is right for you.

Inform your girlfriend of your decision, whether it is to forgive her and start over, have a brief separation while you figure out what to do, or part ways.

Tips: This does not have to get ugly. Wait until you are able to address this issue as rationally as possible. Regardless of her cheating, remember that you cared about her once, and you still may. You don't need to console her, but you will feel better about yourself if you take the high road.

Warnings: If she cheats on you once, shame on her! If she cheats on you twice or more, well, you know the rest.

Comfort Zone

I use to have a Comfort Zone
Where I knew I couldn't fail
The same four walls of busy work
Were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things
I'd never done before,
But I stayed inside my Comfort Zone
And paced the same old floor

I said it didn't matter,
That I wasn't doing much
I said I didn't care for things
Like diamonds, furs and such

I claimed to be so busy
With the things inside my zone,
But deep inside I longed for
Something special of my own.

I couldn't let my life go by,
Just watching others win.
I held my breath and stepped outside
And let the change begin.

I took a step and with new strength
I'd never felt before,
I kissed my Comfort Zone "goodbye"
And closed and locked the door.

If you are in a Comfort Zone,
Afraid to venture out,
Remember that all winners were
At one time filled with doubt.

A step or two and words of praise,
Can make your dreams come true.
Greet your future with a smile,
Success is there for you!

Single and Sick of It?

"Why am I still single?" thousands of women ask DrPhil with looks of fear, desperation and hopelessness. Dr. Phil gets real about why they — and possibly you — are still flying solo.


Do an autopsy on your past relationships. Why didn't they work? Look at things honestly and learn from your mistakes.

Acknowledge what you own in a relationship. If you look at relationships that haven't worked, the common denominator is you! That means you own part of the problem. You create your own experience and control the choices you make. Your behavior and decisions have consequences. Take responsibility for them.

Be your authentic self. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you're supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else — and it doesn't work if you're looking for a lasting relationship. Give yourself permission to be your authentic self.

Change your internal dialogue — what you're telling yourself in real time. You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts. For example, if you call yourself a "freak magnet" while waiting for a blind date to show up, you're starting off with a negative internal message.

Take notice of your "tapes," which Dr. Phil compares to "elevator music," that constantly play in your head. Tapes can be even more insidious than your internal dialogue because they're so well rehearsed and ingrained. Evaluate a particular situation, rather than listening to your tapes and deciding ahead of time. For example, if you've told yourself that "all good men are taken," then you've labeled the man you're out with as "a leftover" before you've even gotten to know him! Your pre-determined beliefs, which you may not even be conscious of, can be destructive.

A common mistake of many single people is that they try to change themselves for the person they are dating. When you do that, you're not being true to who you are, and it will bite you in the rear.

If what you're doing isn't working, change it. Do something different. Don't be someone you're not, but have a broad range of who you are.

Decide what kind of person you're looking for and put yourself in a target-rich environment. If, for example, you're looking for a man who loves the outdoors, go there. And if you're not looking for a barfly, don't go to a bar to meet someone!

Only 7 percent of communication is verbal. For every thought you have, there's a physiological reaction. Become aware of the signals you are sending out. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication.

Recognize that you don't have to be in a relationship to be whole. It is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

Don't put pressure on yourself. You don't have to be married. It's not required. Stop telling yourself you have to get a ring on your finger.

Are you available? Look at your life and ask yourself if you're leaving time to meet someone. Would someone have to throw himself on the hood of your car to cross paths with you and get your attention?

Don't act desperate. Send a message that you "want to" be in a relationship — not that you've "got to." Even if you hear your biological clock, it need not tick loudly enough for every eligible man to hear it!

Why women cry . . .

"Why are you crying?" he asked his mom.
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.
"I don't understand," he said.
His mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will.."

Later the little boy asked his father,
"Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason" was all his dad could say...

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry...

Finally he put in a call to GOD; when GOD got on the phone the man said,"GOD, why do women cry so easily?"

GOD said..When I made women she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort..

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children..

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining..

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly..

This same sensitivity helps her to make a child's boo-boo feel better and shares in their teenagers anxieties and fears..

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart..

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly..

I gave her a tear to shed, It's hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed. It's her only weakness.. It's a tear for mankind . . .

What Makes Men and Women Happy

What a man should do to keep his wife happy:

1. Make her dinner.
2. Take her out.
3. Send her chocolate and roses for no reason.
4. Tell her how much he loves her.
5. Help around the house.
6. Spend money for no reason except that he loves her.

What a Woman should do to keep him happy:
1. Show up naked.
2. Bring food.

Stress Free in 10 minutes . . .

1. Do NothingAt least once during the day, take 5 - 10 minutes to sit quietly and do nothing. Focus on the sounds around you, your emotions and any tension in your neck, shoulders, arms, chest, etc.

2. Laugh Out Loud
Keep something handy that makes you laugh. It could be a collection of your favorite comic strips, or a funny eMail from, say, your child or a friend. You could even take a few moments to think watching your favorite comedy serial. Turn to this every so often during your day.

3. Tune InWhen you face a daunting task, play soothing music - be it classical, country or jazz. At work you can use the CD drive on your computer to keep the music at the ready.

4. Think HappyFocus on someone or something you care deeply about for anywhere from 15 seconds to 5 minutes. Or picture a scene from a peaceful vacation. A phrase that makes you feel positive about yourself and the world can also work.

5. Hit The Road
Get up from your desk, the couch - wherever you may be - and take a 10 minute walk.

6. Breathe EasyFor 5 minutes, slow your breathing down to about 6 deep-belly breaths a minute. In other words, inhale for about 5 seconds, exhale for about 5.

7. Rise Relaxed
Right before bed, and after the alarm goes off in the morning, take 5 minutes to relax your entire body. Start by tensing your toes; consciously relax them. Move on to the muscles in your feet, and then your calves, upper legs, move upwards until you end by scrunching up and then relaxing the muscles in your face . . .

Slow Dance

Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You'd better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.
The music won't last.

Do you run through each day

On the fly? When you ask "How are you?"

Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done

Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores

Running through your head?

You'd better slow down

Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last.

Ever told your child,

We'll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste,

Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch,

Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time

To call and say "Hi"?

You'd better slow down.

Don't dance so fast.

Time is short.

The music won't last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere

You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,

It is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away.

Life is not a race.

Do take it slower

Hear the music

Before the song is over.

Poem by David L

Interesting facts about Marriage

Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached

When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a ten-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.

Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.

After a quarrel, a husband said to his wife, "You know, I was a fool when I married you." She replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn't notice."

Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.* In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.* In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

• Son: How much does it cost to get married, Dad?
• Father: I don't know son, I'm still paying for it.

Marriage requires a man to prepare 4 types of "rings":

• The Engagement Ring
• The Wedding Ring
• The Suffe-Ring
• The Endu-Ring

Story of the year

"A son and his father were walking on the mountains.

Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

"To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"Curious, he yells: "Who are you?

"He receives the answer: "Who are you?"

And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!

"The voice answers: "I admire you!

"Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!

"He receives the answer: "Coward!

"He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?

"The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention.

"Again the man screams: "You are a champion!

"The voice answers: "You are a champion!

"The boy is surprised, but does not understand.

Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.

It gives you back everything you say or do.

Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.

If you want more love in the world,

create more love in your heart.

If you want more competence in your team,

improve your competence.

This relationship applies to everything,

in all aspects of life;Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!"

Attitude

Throw back the shoulders, let the heart sing, let the eyes flash, let the mind be lifted up, look upward and say to yourself... Nothing is impossible! --Norman Vincent

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes. --Rev. Charles Swindoll

Life is a train of moods like a string of beads; and as we pass through them they prove to be many colored lenses, which paint the world their own hue, and each shows us only what lies in its own focus. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. --Richard Bach

The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude. --William James

Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people. If the only tool you have is a hammer, you treat everything like a nail.--Abraham M.

Where the heart is willing, it will find a thousand ways. Where it is unwilling, it will find a thousand excuses. --Arlen Price

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.--Eleanor Roosevelt

Pride is a personal commitment. It is an attitude which separates excellence from mediocrity. Everyone you meet knows something you don't know. Be willing to learn from them Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.
-- Abraham Lincoln

A Story Worth Reading . . .

I had a very special teacher in high school many years ago whose husband died suddenly of a heart attack. About a week after his death, she shared some of her insight with a classroom of students. As the late afternoon sunlight came streaming in through the classroom windows and the class was nearly over, she moved a few things aside on the edge of her desk and sat down there. With a gentle look of reflection on her face, she paused and said, "Class is over. I would like to share with all of you, a thought that is unrelated to class, but which I feel is very important.

"Each of us is put here on earth to learn, share, love, appreciate and give of ourselves. None of us knows when this fantastic experience will end. It can be taken away at any moment. Perhaps this is the Powers way of telling us that we must make the most out of every single day."

Her eyes beginning to water, she went on, "So I would like you all to make me a promise. From now on, on your way to school, or on your way home, find something beautiful to notice. It doesn't have to be something you see, it could be a scent, perhaps of freshly baked bread wafting out of someone's house, or it could be the sound of the breeze slightly rustling the leaves in the trees, or the way the morning light catches one autumn leaf as it falls gently to the ground.

"Please look for these things, and cherish them. For, although it may sound trite to some, these things are the 'stuff' of life. The little things we are put here on earth to enjoy. The things we often take for granted. We must make it important to notice them, for at anytime it can all be taken away."

The class was completely quiet. We all picked up our books and filed out of the room silently. That afternoon, I noticed more things on my way home from school than I had that whole semester.

Every once in a while, I think of that teacher and remember what an impression she made on all of us, and I try to appreciate all of those things that sometimes we all overlook.

Take notice of something special you see on your lunch hour today. Go barefoot, or walk on the beach at sunset. Stop off on the way home tonight to get a double dip ice cream cone. For as we get older, is not the things we did that we often regret, but the things we didn't do.

Remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away . . .

Courage..........

Fortune favors the brave. --Virgil (70 BC - 19 BC)

Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties. --Erich Fromm

Courage is the ladder on which all the other virtues mount. --Clare Booth Luce Cicero

Live as brave men; and if fortune is adverse, front its blows with brave hearts. --Cicero

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The bravest thing you can do when you are not brave is to profess courage and act accordingly.

--Corra Harr

Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow.
--Dorothy Thompson

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
--Eleanor Roosevelt

When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson