Tuesday, January 31, 2006

A Thought on Friendship


"Remember, no man is a failure who has friends"


"The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend" -- Abraham Lincoln


"The only way to have a friend is to be one" --Ralph Waldo Emerson


"Depth of friendship does not depend on length of acquaintance " --Rabindranath Tagore


"He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare, And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere" -- Ralph Waldo Emerson


"All love that has not friendship for its base,Is like a mansion built upon the sand" --E.W Wilcox

Saturday, January 28, 2006

Time.......


Time doesn’t wait
If you think you might have found right one,
Treasure the person,
Don’t let that person get a way.
Don’t let fear hold you back.
Give it a try or else you might regret later….

No one other than ourselves know
What can truly make us happy.”

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

A Thought on Time

" All that really belongs to us is time; even he who has nothing else has that"
- Baltasar Gracian


" Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend"
-Theophrastus


"Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save"
-Will Rogers

"If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves"
-Maria Edgeworth

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Formula For Success

The winners in life know the rules of the game and have a plan. Whether you're looking to heal a relationship, get a new job, lose weight or find inner peace, consider these characteristics which Dr. Phil says are common to people who succeed.

Have a vision.
Champions get what they want because they know what they want. They have a vision that keeps them motivated and efficiently on track. They see it, feel it, and experience it in their minds and hearts. What is success for you? You won't get there without knowing what it feels and looks like.

Make a strategy.
People who consistently win have a clear and thoughtful strategy. They know what they need to do and when they need to do it. They write it down so they stay on course, and avoid any alternative that does not get them closer to the finish line.

Find a passion.
Are you excited to get up in the morning? People with a passion are, and they're energized about what they are doing. You need to live and breathe what it is that you want, and be passionately invested in both the journey and the goal.

Live the truth.
People who consistently win have no room in their lives for denial, fantasy or fiction. They are self-critical rather than self-deluding, and they hold themselves to high but realistic standards. They deal with the truth, since they recognize that nothing else will make their vision obtainable.

Be flexible.
Life is not a success-only journey. Even the best-laid plans sometimes must be altered and changed. Be open to input and consider any potentially viable alternative. Be willing to be wrong and be willing to start over.

Take risks.
People who consistently win are willing to get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Be willing to plunge into the unknown if necessary, and leave behind the safe, unchallenging, and familiar existence in order to have more.

Create a strong nucleus.
Surround yourself with a group of people who want you to succeed. They will move with you toward your goal. Choose and bond with people who have skills, talents and abilities that you do not. Winners give and receive by being part of other people's nuclear groups.

Take action.
Do it! People who succeed don't just sit and think about what they want to do. They take meaningful, purposeful, directional action consistently and persistently. Every step they take puts them toward the outcome they're looking for.

Set priorities.
People who are consistent winners manage their challenges in hierarchical fashion. They commit to managing their time in such a way that does not allow them to spend time grinding along on priority number two or three if priority number one needs their attention.


Take care of yourself.
People who consistently win are consciously committed to self-management. They are the most important resource they have in achieving their goals. They actively manage their mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health.


Sources :http://www.drphil.com/

Friday, January 20, 2006

A Thought on Faith

" Faith is nothing but a living, wide-awake consciousness of God within." - Gandhi


"If you want your faith, you have to work for it."— Flannery O'Connor


"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it;
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it."
— Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Thursday, January 19, 2006

Happy Birthday

" A father is always making his baby into a little woman. And when she is a woman he turns her back again" ~Enid Bagnold


Today is my dad’s b’day; he is the rock of my life. Most kindest and generous person I ever known. By looking back it has being a very difficult, heartfelt journey . Having loosing his dad at very early age in life, he is determined to provide every thing he could to be the best dad to me. Being in a middle class in Sri Lanka, I would say we had a pretty comfortable life. My dad immigrated to Europe, when I was only three years of age. He missed twelve best years of my life; I wish he would have been there for my first day at school to hold hand and all the parent’s evenings I could have shown him off to my friends. I remember going to the air port once every year to pick him up and those limited thirty days how I got spoiled with his love. He would shower me with luxury presents and how I loved to listen to the stories he tells me about the places he visited in Europe.

Those were magical times I wish it would have lasted long and never had to end. But life’s reality is far from being fairy tales, I had to face the fact that he had to go for his job and get on with my life as usual. He made so many personal sacrifices and saved every penny has earned to give me the best education and the life he never had when he was growing up. When he was ready to come back to take over to be the dad again, I was dying to leave home to see the world. I know it must have being hard for him to imagine that his little girl has grown up and ready leave the nest he works so hard to build. But he approved my move silently; I think we both knew from our hearts that is no coming back. Since the day I left home, I didn’t go back when I finish my studies then it is time for me to start my career. Then there is my turn to start a family, I know you are still waiting dad, I wish we could turn back the time. I wanted you to know even though we live oceans apart I always think of you and love you very much and may you have a happy long life.

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

A Thought...........

"I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me."
Anna Quindlen Featured in Something More by Sarah Ban Breathnach (Warner Books)


Today I woke up feeling tired… …It was a another cold rainy day in new jersey.. Hmm don’t feel like going to work, but don’t have much of a choice. Had to finish some work from yesterday, otherwise my boss will be on my back. I am not just tired from work, fed up with so predictable life. Eight hours a day…Monday to Friday at work, then the week end, end up quickly for cleaning and shopping…never really have time for my self ..i don’t mean going for a luxury holiday in a Caribbean islands ( I know it would be nice….) one day…just one day…..without any responsibilities and not feeling guilty about it. Hmm I spent half of my life trying to please every body else, lives up to their expectations….never really figured out that what makes me happy.

If I wake up tomorrow to a one million in my bank account, would that make me happy? That would of course buy me Aston martin, vineyard and a mansion with a lake front which I dreamed of….but is that it? Then again few months time I will get bored with that life too and end up blogging away my sadness. I realized it is not money that can make you satisfied…it is the change you need in life…change which can be done by you. It is the dreams and hopes keep you going in life, people you meet along the way and it is the path you enjoy not the destination.(I don’t wanted to be sounded like my spiritual guru now)



A million dollar question is….what can i do differently to change my life? Hmm…I am going to start with being nice to my husband and then I want to start saving up for a good cause this year. It is something; I always wanted to do when I was growing up in Sri Lanka. Go to a remote village and sponsor a child who does not have privileges for higher education. I mean to open a trust fund and so they can use that money to pay for tuitions fees e.t.c. hmmm back to earth again…. Ooops…It is almost time…..for me to rap up and get ready. Now I have something to work on for today, feeling better already -:) -:)

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Seven Steps to Rescuing Romance


hmm....This year is full of weddings from begining to end..all my cousins,freinds are getting married.Funny thing is that they all wanted get marry before me and have a family early....bla bla stuff and end up being last. I am the one who is laughing at them now,coz my so called family advisers seeking tips from me. Suddenly i bacame their expert,wedding planner and relationship guru.They wanted to know from designing wedding cards to how to cope with married life . So i decided to publish a book......just kidding ...as you all know i am also a newbie and still learning bitz and pieces in marriage universe.But i can't let you guys down since this is the first time you decided to ask my advice...did a little research and find this article interesting from Oprah.com

Seven Steps to Rescuing Romance

Try one every day of the week, focus on one at a time, do whatever you like with them—but do take them all to heart.

1. Find Out What You Want Are you meeting your partner's needs? Are your needs being met? What are they? After you know partner's needs, if you find yourselves still frustrated, realize that it's not that you can't meet your partner's needs, it's that you won't. Think about why you haven't yet.

2. Respect Your Partner It shouldn't matter why your partner needs what he or she needs. Consider Dr. Phil's example: If one of your kids got up in the middle of the night and said, "I'm thirsty," would you just turn around and say, "Well, I'm not, so go back to bed"? The key is to appreciate your partner's individuality. Don't expect your partner to react exactly as you would; your partner isn't you! 3. What Message Do You Send? Think about the message you are sending your partner when you don't acknowledge his or her wants. How does this make your partner feel? How would it make you feel?

4. Compromise. Know that you can fulfill your partner's wants. But by prioritizing your needs alone, you're making the conscious decision to not to fulfil his or her wants. Try talking about both of your needs and wants. Find the middle ground.

5. Don't Forget Romance Keep in mind that romance is an important element of marriage. Your partner might consider romance as the true measure of his or her value to your relationship. Be thoughtful and try doing something sweet for no apparent reason.

6. Remember the 4-minute rule You can predict the rest of the night based on the first 4 minutes, so make those minutes count! Bring flowers. Greet each other with a compliment. Ask questions about your partner's day. Smile; it'll make a difference.

7. Open Up Be communicative and expressive with your partner. Remember, sharing emotions is not weakness; it makes you whole.

Monday, January 16, 2006

Rules for Dating...



This is for all my single freinds out there who is looking for a good relationship..............little advice from Dr Phil
Dr. Phil's Rules For Dating
1. Be awareAre you aware of the first impression you make? People react to how you present yourself — so pay attention to the statement you make. If you're not sure how you might be perceived, ask someone who will tell you the truth. Remember that men are visually stimulated.

2.Check your baggage
Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal. That 93 percent screams your "personal truth," what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking. If you're carrying baggage — insecurities, fear, desperation — people can tell.

3. Know your deal brakers
While Dr. Phil cautions about expecting someone to meet a checklist, he does think it's OK to have deal breakers. But you need to know what they are and get rid of the ones that are frivolous. Be open to someone who may not meet all your requirements, while recognizing what you're not willing to compromise on.

4. Move SlowlyWhen you feel the pressure of time, you can make mistakes, overlook important details, or misjudge someone. Don't base everything on chemistry, because marriage is not one long date. Let the natural rhythm of a relationship run its course without getting too impatient or forcing things.

Keep in mind: The number one fear that men have is rejection. They need to see a vulnerability, an approachability, so they feel like they have something to offer you. Are you so into your comfort zone of being single that you're putting out a vibe that says "I don't need you"?
now..now ....stop complaining being single and lonely......start dating...tell me how the rules are working with you......(As for me it all worked fine except the fourth one......i did rush to decisions, but it all turned out fine for now,sometimes you have to make decesions based on the facts available to you in a short period of time.If you leave it for so long either you may end up jumping from one relationship to another or get fed up with the whole process.I know some of my close freinds passed good oppourtunities thinking they might meet their perfect soul mates.I think it is all about compromise....there is no such thing as hundred percent match unless it is your clone....it is give and take from both side which will lead to a solid relationship....

Saturday, January 14, 2006

Knowing....


Knowing is not enough,
We must apply.
Willing is not enough
We must do.
- Goethe

Friday, January 13, 2006

Win or Fail

We all can’t be captains, some have to be crew.
There is something for all of us.

So if you can’t be a highway,
Then be a great trail.
If you can’t be a sun, be a star.

It is not by size that you win or fail,
The difference lies in
Just being the best at what ever you are.

Thursday, January 12, 2006

Life

Do not run through life
So fast that you forget
Not only where you have been,
But also where you are going
Life is not a race,
But a journey to be savored
Each step of the way.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

First Crush

It is Queensbury station
One cold winter evening
I caught your eyes staring
Was thinking for a second
Do I know you?
Moment of blankness
I look again, you smiled
Hmm charming…who are you?
Sudden urge to look again
Train came to the plat-form
 No chance to think for a second
Was pushed in to the carriage
Thunder stuck on my head
I remember you….
We were in the same class
You’ve changed a lot
Wanted to scream out loud
I found you, my first crush
But it is late now……
Ten years had gone.
Wish I had told you...
That I loved you…..

Opportunity



Seek opportunity, not security. A boat in a harbor is safe, but in time its bottem will rot out.

Tuesday, January 10, 2006

On Success



There are people who will always come up with reasons why you can't do what you want to do.
Ignore them.

Never give up...



"Never give up on what you really want to do.The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts "



Remember that
just the moment you say,
" I give up,"
someone else seeing the
same situation is saying,
" My, what a great opportunity".

Friday, January 06, 2006

My Soldier

I see it on the news.
Stories of soldiers being killed.
I always prayed that it's not you,
I wish I knew that you were safe,
I don't think that I can handle your death,
You are my soldier, and you
Mean everything to me….

The bombs exploding, I pray that you aren't hit.
That would cause my world to end.
I needed you in my life.
I pray that you would come home soon.
I know it was your dream
To be a soldier, protect the innocent
Tell me this, is it worth dying for?
Who is the enemy you are fighting?
Dead scared child with a gun?
Made me see that this war is useless
There is no hero, only a grief in a war

I wish war would end soon….
For you to come home, I missed you
I barely do anything these days
My heart stops,when I hear the door bell
Afraid to see a soldier on my door step
Telling me my worst fear, not seeing you live
Just heard the news of soldiers being killed.
I prayed that it was not you, my soldier.....

Thursday, January 05, 2006

Love



No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.

And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

New Year 2006 - Celebrations

TimeSquare - New York
Fire Works in London
New year's eve by the Thames
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