This is for all my single freinds out there who is looking for a good relationship..............little advice from Dr Phil
Dr. Phil's Rules For Dating
1. Be awareAre you aware of the first impression you make? People react to how you present yourself — so pay attention to the statement you make. If you're not sure how you might be perceived, ask someone who will tell you the truth. Remember that men are visually stimulated.
2.Check your baggage
Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal. That 93 percent screams your "personal truth," what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking. If you're carrying baggage — insecurities, fear, desperation — people can tell.
3. Know your deal brakers
While Dr. Phil cautions about expecting someone to meet a checklist, he does think it's OK to have deal breakers. But you need to know what they are and get rid of the ones that are frivolous. Be open to someone who may not meet all your requirements, while recognizing what you're not willing to compromise on.
4. Move SlowlyWhen you feel the pressure of time, you can make mistakes, overlook important details, or misjudge someone. Don't base everything on chemistry, because marriage is not one long date. Let the natural rhythm of a relationship run its course without getting too impatient or forcing things.
Keep in mind: The number one fear that men have is rejection. They need to see a vulnerability, an approachability, so they feel like they have something to offer you. Are you so into your comfort zone of being single that you're putting out a vibe that says "I don't need you"?
2.Check your baggage
Seven percent of communication is what you say, and the other 93 percent is non-verbal. That 93 percent screams your "personal truth," what you really believe about yourself when nobody is looking. If you're carrying baggage — insecurities, fear, desperation — people can tell.
3. Know your deal brakers
While Dr. Phil cautions about expecting someone to meet a checklist, he does think it's OK to have deal breakers. But you need to know what they are and get rid of the ones that are frivolous. Be open to someone who may not meet all your requirements, while recognizing what you're not willing to compromise on.
4. Move SlowlyWhen you feel the pressure of time, you can make mistakes, overlook important details, or misjudge someone. Don't base everything on chemistry, because marriage is not one long date. Let the natural rhythm of a relationship run its course without getting too impatient or forcing things.
Keep in mind: The number one fear that men have is rejection. They need to see a vulnerability, an approachability, so they feel like they have something to offer you. Are you so into your comfort zone of being single that you're putting out a vibe that says "I don't need you"?
now..now ....stop complaining being single and lonely......start dating...tell me how the rules are working with you......(As for me it all worked fine except the fourth one......i did rush to decisions, but it all turned out fine for now,sometimes you have to make decesions based on the facts available to you in a short period of time.If you leave it for so long either you may end up jumping from one relationship to another or get fed up with the whole process.I know some of my close freinds passed good oppourtunities thinking they might meet their perfect soul mates.I think it is all about compromise....there is no such thing as hundred percent match unless it is your clone....it is give and take from both side which will lead to a solid relationship....
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