Wednesday, December 20, 2006

WINNERS v/s LOSERS


Winners have dreams; Losers have schemes.
Winners see the gains; Losers see the pain.
Winners see the potential; Losers see the past.
Winners make it happen; Losers let it happen.
Winners see possibilities; Losers see problems.
Winners make commitments; Losers make promises.
Winners are a part of the team; Losers are apart from the team.
Winners always have a program; Losers always have an excuse.
Winners say, "Let me do it for you"; Losers say, "That is not my job".
Winners say, "I must do something"; Losers say, "Something must be done".
Winners are always a part of the answer; Losers are always a part of the problem.
Winners see an answer for every problem; Losers see a problem for every answer.
Winners believe in win/win; Losers believe for them to win, someone has to lose.
Winners say "It may be difficult but it is possible"; Losers say "It may be possible but it is too difficult".
Winners make a mistake. He says "I was wrong"; Losers make a mistake; he says "It wasn't my fault".


Monday, September 11, 2006

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON ??????????




During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, " How do I know if I married the right person ?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, " It Depends. Is that your husband?

In all seriousness, she answered " How do you know?"Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's Weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,you fell in love with... Your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted...their touch, and liked.... Their idiosyncrasies......Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. Infact, it was a Completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening...TO YOU...

People in love sometimes say, " I was swept of my feet." Think about the Imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing There; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the Natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls Become a bother ( if they come at all), touch is notalways welcome ( when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you Think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and or your spouse might start asking, " Did I marry The right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of The love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for theirUnhappiness and look outside their marriage forfulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is> The most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You Could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because ( listen carefully to this)

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous> experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find " LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it Takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.There are specific Things you can do ( with or without your spouse ) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), There are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise Program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your Relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... You can " make" love.


Love in marriage is indeed a " decision"... Not just a feeling.

Sunday, June 25, 2006

If You Love Someone . . .

If you love some one because you think that he or she is really gorgeous ...then it's not love..it's - Infatuation . . .

If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him becauseothers think that you shouldn't ... then it's not love..it's - compromise . . .

If you love some one because you think that you cannot live with out his touch ....then it's not love .. it's - lust . . .


If you love some one because you have been kissed by him ...then it's not love.. it's - inferiority complex . . .


If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings ..then it's not love .. it's - charity . . .


If you love some one because you share every thing with him ...then it's not love..it's - Friendship . . .


but if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stableand you cry for him ..that's - LOVE . . .


If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets..that's - LOVE . . .


If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to..that's - LOVE . . .
'' Don't hold something in your arms that you could never hold in your heart''

Sunday, May 21, 2006

I believe...

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge -- myth is more potent than history -- dreams are more powerful than facts -- hope always triumphs over experience -- laughter is the cure for grief -- love is stronger than death.--- -- Robert Fulghum

The pain passes, but the beauty remains.-- Pierre Auguste Renoir

Joy and sorrow are inseparable. . . together they come and when one sits alone with you . . . remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.-- Kahlil Gibran

He who has not looked on Sorrow will never see Joy. -- Kahlil Gibran
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven? ---- Kahlil Gibran

There's no such thing as old age, there is only sorrow.-- Edith Wharton

There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year's course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.-- Carl Jung

If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.-- Anne Bradstreet

There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.

The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned.-- William Somerset Maugham

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.-- Chinese Proverbs

Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.


Saturday, May 13, 2006

Today......

Today before you think of saying an unkind word
Think of someone who can't speak
Before you complain about the taste of your food
Think of someone who has nothing to eat
Before you complain about your husband or wifeT
Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion
Today before you complain about life
Think of someone who went too early to heaven
Before you complain about your children
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep
Think of the people who are living in the streets
Before whining about the distance you drive
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feetAnd when you are tired and complain about your job
Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around Life is a gift
Live it.Enjoy it..Celebrate it..And fulfill it..HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY . . .

Saturday, April 29, 2006

The Silent Treatment


A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day,he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.
Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, "Please wake me at 5:00 AM." He left it where he knew she would find it. The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AMand he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go andsee why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper bythe bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up." Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.

WIFE VS. HUSBAND

A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied , "in-laws


CREATION

A man said t o his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!



THIS FOR SMART WOMEN WHO NEED A LAUGH AND TO MEN YOU THINK CAN HANDLE IT !

Sunday, April 23, 2006

Thoughts to Ponder : Why ... why ... why ... Have you ever wondered?

Why is it considered necessary to nail down the lid of a coffin?

Why don't you ever see the headline "Psychic Wins Lottery"?

Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle?

Why is it that doctors call what they do "practice"?

Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker?

Why can't they make the whole plane out of the same substance that little indestructible black box is?

Can fat people go skinny-dipping?

If a person with multiple personalities threatens suicide, is that considered a hostage situation?

If a cow laughed, would milk come out her nose?

So what's the speed of dark?

How come abbreviated is such a long word?

Since light travels faster than sound, isn't that why some people appear bright until you hear them speak?

Ever wonder what the speed of lightning would be if it didn't zigzag?

If it's true that we are here to help others, then what exactly are the OTHERS here for?

If Fed Ex and UPS were to merge, would they call it Fed UP?

If quitters never win, and winners never quit, what fool came up with, "Quit while you're ahead"?

Do Lipton employees take coffee breaks?

What hair color do they put on the driver's licenses of bald men?

Should women put pictures of missing husbands on beer cans?

Why do people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older ... they were cramming for their finals!

Why can't you find fresh sardines in the fish market?

Why do so many old people eat at cafeterias?

Why does an "X" stand for a kiss?

Why are the copyright dates on movies and television shows written in Roman numbers?

Saturday, April 22, 2006

My life in Carolina......


It is almost one month since I have left New Jersey, finally got sorted an apartment to stay for next six months. At first it was a very isolated place to me, hardly see anyone walking on the road, all farm lands and wooden areas. Now I am kind of used to the area, started enjoying the scenic beauty, all that greenery and surrounded by unknown mysteriousness.
People are more relaxed and friendly compare to crowded New York life. Only thing I really missed from Jersey is the diversity and the quality of the food. I was sick of eating junk food everyday, now I have a nice flat mate and a place can start cooking spicy food. Work is very hectic as expected and had to work even weekend and I don’t get time to read the blogs I am addicted to read. Hoping every thing will be back to normal soon, then I can start blogging again……

Saturday, March 25, 2006

Time to move again.....

I just wanted to let all of you know that posting may slow down here over the next week or so, as I’ll be moving to Charlotte, North Carolina for six months.This hit me kind of fast, and so I’ve been rapidly packing my things since last night. Moving is not my favorite thing, even though I have moved ample times in my life. Anyway this time is different, only thing I know is the company I am going to work and the hotel which I will be staying for up to a week. So far I’ve started packing half of suitcase, managed to keep my things down to the minimum. .. basic necessities, like clothes, hygiene products, etc. and my entire computer related items. I want to take all the books, then I realized...only going for six months. it may sound long. but it goes quicky..once I started getting used to Charlotte, it is time to move back again. Anyway I am looking forward to work in Charlotte, the queen city as I heard it has a nice and friendly southern charm. Anyway,i am going to miss, reading all the wonderful blogs for a while, but I will be back guys ..until then Keep Blogging....

Friday, March 24, 2006

Jealousy....



"Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment"

"Jealousy comes from self-love rather than from true love"

"Jealousy is a tiger that tears not only its prey but also its own raging heart"

"There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy"-- Lope de Vega

"Love may exist without jealousy, although this is rare; but jealousy may exist without love, and this is common"

"Jealousy is always born with love, but does not always die with it” -- François de Rochefoucauld

"Plain women are always jealous of their husbands. Beautiful women never are. They are always so occupied with being jealous of other women's husbands"--Oscar Wilde quotes

"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening" --Maya Angelou

"Jealousy lives upon doubts. It becomes madness or ceases entirely as soon as we pass from doubt to certainty.” François de la Rochefoucauld

"Like hatred, jealousy is forbidden by the laws of life because it is essentially destructive”-Alexis

"My wife's jealousy is getting ridiculous. The other day she looked at my calendar and wanted to know who May was" --Rodney Dangerfield

“Cruelty has a human heart, And jealousy a human face Terror, the human form divine, And secrecy, the human dress” -- William Blake quote

“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality . Wake Up and Live!” -- Bob Marley

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

Lessons of Life

The following pics are of the same place but taken under different seasons

Spring & Summer Season

Autumn & Winter Season

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen. The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfilment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right,because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.

He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.
If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfilment of your fall.

Moral:

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judgethe life by one difficult season.
Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later

Tuesday, March 21, 2006

The Turkey and the Bull

A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy.

"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull.

"They're packed with nutrients."

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fortnight, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the Story: Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

Monday, March 20, 2006

Bloom in a drought....

How do I explain
this bloom upon the rose,
that clings against all odds
this endless drought bestows?

Just holding on with hope
that rains will fall again,
before she hits the dust
where her tender life will end

But rain has left this bloom
to struggle on her own,
with only hopes and prayers
she clings to life alone.

She holds on with a dream
the day sweet drops will fall,
to ease her aching thirst
her petals cry out for.

So fragile with her pain
so lonely with her need,
that just one tender touch
would cause her heart to bleed.

The rains she knows so well
seem nowhere in her sight,
but still she finds the strength
to not give up the fight.

Alone she blooms her smile
to hide away her fears,
she'll flower while she can
no moisture left for tears . . .

Saturday, March 18, 2006

Opportunity


A priest was driving along and saw nun on the side of the road. He stopped and offered her a lift which she accepted. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing the habit to open and reveal a leg. The priest looks and nearly has an accident, and after changing gear lets his hand slide up her leg.

She immediately says, "Father, remember Psalm 129".

The priest says sorry and removes his hand but is unable to remove his eyes from her leg. Further on when he changes gear and has ogled at her leg for the zillionth time he lets the hand slide up the leg again.

The Nun once again says, "Father remember Psalm 129".

Arriving at the convent the nun gets out and the priest goes on his way. Once he arrives at his church he rushes to the bible and looks up Psalm 129 and it said, "GO FORTH AND SEEK, FURTHER UP YOU WILL FIND GLORY"


Moral of the Story: In your job should always be well informed or you may miss a great opportunity

Thursday, March 16, 2006

How to Handle a Cheating Girlfriend


There is more to life than living out the lyrics of a country and western song. If her cheatin' heart is more than you can stand, it is time for you to change your tune or face the music.
Think about the source of your suspicion. If you "heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who heard it from another she's been messin' around," look for more reliable information.
Make sure that jealousy and insecurity are not making you falsely accuse someone you care about.
Trust your instincts. If you think that your girlfriend is cheating on you, then ask her. If her answer is, "Oh, no honey. Of course not! How could you even ask such a thing? You know I love you and only you (kiss-kiss)," but you simply don't believe her, make sure your mistrust is based on something you witness or experience.
Noticing a change in your relationship or her behavior would make your suspicion reasonable. Seeing her with someone else, who looks clearly to be more than a friend, is pretty solid evidence.
Consider your physical health and emotional well-being. Could she be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases? Can you deal with being one of many?
Think about what you would tell a sibling or a best friend to do in your situation. Is fear keeping you from following your own advice?
Discuss your feelings with your girlfriend. Tell her how her cheating is affecting you. Explain what you're looking for in this relationship.
Listen to what she has to say. Her response to your concerns should give you the information you need to do what is right for you.
Inform your girlfriend of your decision, whether it is to forgive her and start over, have a brief separation while you figure out what to do, or part ways.

Tips: This does not have to get ugly. Wait until you are able to address this issue as rationally as possible. Regardless of her cheating, remember that you cared about her once, and you still may. You don't need to console her, but you will feel better about yourself if you take the high road.

Warnings: If she cheats on you once, shame on her! If she cheats on you twice or more, well, you know the rest.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006

Comfort Zone


I use to have a Comfort Zone
Where I knew I couldn't fail
The same four walls of busy work
Were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things
I'd never done before,
But I stayed inside my Comfort Zone
And paced the same old floor

I said it didn't matter,
That I wasn't doing much
I said I didn't care for things
Like diamonds, furs and such

I claimed to be so busy
With the things inside my zone,
But deep inside I longed for
Something special of my own.

I couldn't let my life go by,
Just watching others win.
I held my breath and stepped outside
And let the change begin.

I took a step and with new strength
I'd never felt before,
I kissed my Comfort Zone "goodbye"
And closed and locked the door.

If you are in a Comfort Zone,
Afraid to venture out,
Remember that all winners were
At one time filled with doubt.

A step or two and words of praise,
Can make your dreams come true.
Greet your future with a smile,
Success is there for you!

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Single and Sick of It?

"Why am I still single?" thousands of women ask DrPhil with looks of fear, desperation and hopelessness. Dr. Phil gets real about why they — and possibly you — are still flying solo.


Do an autopsy on your past relationships. Why didn't they work? Look at things honestly and learn from your mistakes.

Acknowledge what you own in a relationship. If you look at relationships that haven't worked, the common denominator is you! That means you own part of the problem. You create your own experience and control the choices you make. Your behavior and decisions have consequences. Take responsibility for them.

Be your authentic self. Your authentic self is who you are when you have no fear of judgment, or before the world starts pushing you around and telling you who you're supposed to be. Your fictional self is who you are when you have a social mask on to please everyone else — and it doesn't work if you're looking for a lasting relationship. Give yourself permission to be your authentic self.

Change your internal dialogue — what you're telling yourself in real time. You may be programming yourself for failure with negative thoughts. For example, if you call yourself a "freak magnet" while waiting for a blind date to show up, you're starting off with a negative internal message.

Take notice of your "tapes," which Dr. Phil compares to "elevator music," that constantly play in your head. Tapes can be even more insidious than your internal dialogue because they're so well rehearsed and ingrained. Evaluate a particular situation, rather than listening to your tapes and deciding ahead of time. For example, if you've told yourself that "all good men are taken," then you've labeled the man you're out with as "a leftover" before you've even gotten to know him! Your pre-determined beliefs, which you may not even be conscious of, can be destructive.

A common mistake of many single people is that they try to change themselves for the person they are dating. When you do that, you're not being true to who you are, and it will bite you in the rear.

If what you're doing isn't working, change it. Do something different. Don't be someone you're not, but have a broad range of who you are.

Decide what kind of person you're looking for and put yourself in a target-rich environment. If, for example, you're looking for a man who loves the outdoors, go there. And if you're not looking for a barfly, don't go to a bar to meet someone!

Only 7 percent of communication is verbal. For every thought you have, there's a physiological reaction. Become aware of the signals you are sending out. Desperation, for example, comes through in non-verbal communication.

Recognize that you don't have to be in a relationship to be whole. It is better to be happy alone than sick with someone else. The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.

Don't put pressure on yourself. You don't have to be married. It's not required. Stop telling yourself you have to get a ring on your finger.

Are you available? Look at your life and ask yourself if you're leaving time to meet someone. Would someone have to throw himself on the hood of your car to cross paths with you and get your attention?

Don't act desperate. Send a message that you "want to" be in a relationship — not that you've "got to." Even if you hear your biological clock, it need not tick loudly enough for every eligible man to hear it!

Monday, March 13, 2006

Why women cry . . .

"Why are you crying?" he asked his mom.
"Because I'm a woman," she told him.
"I don't understand," he said.
His mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will.."

Later the little boy asked his father,
"Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"
"All women cry for no reason" was all his dad could say...

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry...

Finally he put in a call to GOD; when GOD got on the phone the man said,"GOD, why do women cry so easily?"

GOD said..When I made women she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort..

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children..

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining..

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly..

This same sensitivity helps her to make a child's boo-boo feel better and shares in their teenagers anxieties and fears..

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart..

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly..

I gave her a tear to shed, It's hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed. It's her only weakness.. It's a tear for mankind . . .

Sunday, March 12, 2006

What Makes Men and Women Happy


What a man should do to keep his wife happy:

1. Make her dinner.
2. Take her out.
3. Send her chocolate and roses for no reason.
4. Tell her how much he loves her.
5. Help around the house.
6. Spend money for no reason except that he loves her.

What a Woman should do to keep him happy:
1. Show up naked.
2. Bring food.

Friday, March 10, 2006

Stress Free in 10 minutes . . .


1. Do NothingAt least once during the day, take 5 - 10 minutes to sit quietly and do nothing. Focus on the sounds around you, your emotions and any tension in your neck, shoulders, arms, chest, etc.

2. Laugh Out Loud
Keep something handy that makes you laugh. It could be a collection of your favorite comic strips, or a funny eMail from, say, your child or a friend. You could even take a few moments to think watching your favorite comedy serial. Turn to this every so often during your day.

3. Tune InWhen you face a daunting task, play soothing music - be it classical, country or jazz. At work you can use the CD drive on your computer to keep the music at the ready.

4. Think HappyFocus on someone or something you care deeply about for anywhere from 15 seconds to 5 minutes. Or picture a scene from a peaceful vacation. A phrase that makes you feel positive about yourself and the world can also work.

5. Hit The Road
Get up from your desk, the couch - wherever you may be - and take a 10 minute walk.

6. Breathe EasyFor 5 minutes, slow your breathing down to about 6 deep-belly breaths a minute. In other words, inhale for about 5 seconds, exhale for about 5.

7. Rise Relaxed
Right before bed, and after the alarm goes off in the morning, take 5 minutes to relax your entire body. Start by tensing your toes; consciously relax them. Move on to the muscles in your feet, and then your calves, upper legs, move upwards until you end by scrunching up and then relaxing the muscles in your face . . .

Thursday, March 09, 2006

Slow Dance


Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You'd better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.


Do you run through each day
On the fly? When you ask "How are you?"
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You'd better slow down
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.


Ever told your child,
We'll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say "Hi"?
You'd better slow down.
Don't dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won't last.


When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away.
Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.
Poem by David L

Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Interesting facts about Marriage


Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached

When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a ten-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.

Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.

After a quarrel, a husband said to his wife, "You know, I was a fool when I married you." She replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn't notice."

Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.* In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.* In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
  • Son: How much does it cost to get married, Dad?
  • Father: I don't know son, I'm still paying for it.
Marriage requires a man to prepare 4 types of "rings":
  • The Engagement Ring
  • The Wedding Ring
  • The Suffe-Ring
  • The Endu-Ring

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Story of the year


"A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!
"To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"Curious, he yells: "Who are you?
"He receives the answer: "Who are you?"
And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!
"The voice answers: "I admire you!
"Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!
"He receives the answer: "Coward!
"He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?
"The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention.
"Again the man screams: "You are a champion!
"The voice answers: "You are a champion!
"The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world,
create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team,
improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything,
in all aspects of life;Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!"

Monday, March 06, 2006

Attitude

Throw back the shoulders, let the heart sing, let the eyes flash, let the mind be lifted up, look upward and say to yourself... Nothing is impossible! --Norman Vincent

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes. --Rev. Charles Swindoll

Life is a train of moods like a string of beads; and as we pass through them they prove to be many colored lenses, which paint the world their own hue, and each shows us only what lies in its own focus. -- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. --Richard Bach

The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude. --William James

Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people. If the only tool you have is a hammer, you treat everything like a nail.--Abraham M.

Where the heart is willing, it will find a thousand ways. Where it is unwilling, it will find a thousand excuses. --Arlen Price

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.--Eleanor Roosevelt

Pride is a personal commitment. It is an attitude which separates excellence from mediocrity. Everyone you meet knows something you don't know. Be willing to learn from them Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.
-- Abraham Lincoln

Saturday, March 04, 2006

A Story Worth Reading . . .

I had a very special teacher in high school many years ago whose husband died suddenly of a heart attack. About a week after his death, she shared some of her insight with a classroom of students. As the late afternoon sunlight came streaming in through the classroom windows and the class was nearly over, she moved a few things aside on the edge of her desk and sat down there. With a gentle look of reflection on her face, she paused and said, "Class is over. I would like to share with all of you, a thought that is unrelated to class, but which I feel is very important.

"Each of us is put here on earth to learn, share, love, appreciate and give of ourselves. None of us knows when this fantastic experience will end. It can be taken away at any moment. Perhaps this is the Powers way of telling us that we must make the most out of every single day."

Her eyes beginning to water, she went on, "So I would like you all to make me a promise. From now on, on your way to school, or on your way home, find something beautiful to notice. It doesn't have to be something you see, it could be a scent, perhaps of freshly baked bread wafting out of someone's house, or it could be the sound of the breeze slightly rustling the leaves in the trees, or the way the morning light catches one autumn leaf as it falls gently to the ground.

"Please look for these things, and cherish them. For, although it may sound trite to some, these things are the 'stuff' of life. The little things we are put here on earth to enjoy. The things we often take for granted. We must make it important to notice them, for at anytime it can all be taken away."

The class was completely quiet. We all picked up our books and filed out of the room silently. That afternoon, I noticed more things on my way home from school than I had that whole semester.

Every once in a while, I think of that teacher and remember what an impression she made on all of us, and I try to appreciate all of those things that sometimes we all overlook.

Take notice of something special you see on your lunch hour today. Go barefoot, or walk on the beach at sunset. Stop off on the way home tonight to get a double dip ice cream cone. For as we get older, is not the things we did that we often regret, but the things we didn't do.

Remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away . . .

Friday, March 03, 2006

Courage..........

Fortune favors the brave. --Virgil (70 BC - 19 BC)

Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties. --Erich Fromm

Courage is the ladder on which all the other virtues mount. --Clare Booth Luce Cicero

Live as brave men; and if fortune is adverse, front its blows with brave hearts. --Cicero

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The bravest thing you can do when you are not brave is to profess courage and act accordingly.
--Corra Harr

Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow.
--Dorothy Thompson

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
--Eleanor Roosevelt

When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Life Goes On . . .

In every human life,
there are some moments when one is sad and depressed
Frustrated from every zone of life,
And feel like leaving everything & going away
And Life Goes on..

Some moments in which
one is wrapped with tensions
one wants to get out of them
and fly high in the sky
But cant run away, and life goes on..

Some moments in which,
one who adores hurts sentiments,
one needs a support, a shoulder to dry on,
But doesnt find one, and life goes on..

Some moments in which one gets tired of life
or so intensely hurt that one wants to die
one wishes to end up with
life at that very moment, and life goes on..

And in every human life on day arrives
When there is a big halt to one's life.
And then the people cry
and show that they were concerned

Then the question arises
Do they wait for one's death..,
To care, To understand the one
If so, then wait till death and until then

Life Goes On . . .

Monday, February 27, 2006

Socrates ...

Be sure to read all the way to the end..... it's worth!

Next time someone starts to spread gossip, think of this:

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"

Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test.It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" "That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say.

The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..." "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?" "No, on the contrary..." "So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?" The man shrugged, a little embarrassed. Socrates continued.

"You may still pass the test though,because there is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?" "No, not really..." "Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful,why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed. This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.

p.s. It also explains why he never found out that Plato (his student) was having an affair with his wife. :):)

Sunday, February 26, 2006

Hope......



We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.
--Martin Luther King

Remember sadness is always temporary. This, too, shall pass.
--Chuck T. Falcon

He who has hope has everything. --Arabian Proverb

Never deprive someone of hope; it might be all they have.--H. Jackson Brown Jr.

The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. --Allan K. Chalmers

Hope is like a bird that senses the dawn and carefully starts to sing while it is still dark.

Hope is the thing with feathersThat perches in the soul.And sings the tuneWithout the words,and never stops at all. --Emily Dickinson

Hope doesn't come from calculating whether the good news is winning out over the bad. It's simply a choice to take action. --Anna Lappe

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things only hoped for. --Epicurus

Saturday, February 25, 2006

Dating Tips for Men

Here are some of dating advice for men which would be practical and would make their dating experience more fruitful:

1. The first piece of dating advice for men is undoubtedly to be on time. If you are bound to be late, make sure you inform her of the same and also apologize about it. Also tell her by what time could you make it.

2. The girl could be uncomfortable if it is a blind date or if she does not know you really well. The best way to relax her is to be relaxed yourself. Make her comfortable and break the ice with a small talk about her and how the day had been for you.

3. Listen to her. That goes without saying, literally!

4. It is said that women are supposed to have sense of humor if they know to laugh at your jokes. But if she manages to say something which she thinks is funny and cute, or if it is a joke you have heard many times, don’t insult her by saying you already know it or that you didn’t find it funny enough. What is your loss, if you smile and laugh at the joke?

5. Ask questions relating to what she says. That shows that you are interested.

6. Be confident. Don’t slouch. Pay proper attention to your posture. Don’t figit with your nose or rub your ears, even if it itches.

7. Be yourself. Don’t exaggerate and don’t lie. Sooner or later, she could see through it.

8. Don’t kiss her on the first date. Control your raging hormones.

9. Make sure that you offer her a drive home or drop her home after the date.

10. Call her up after the date to tell her how wonderful the meeting had been. Don’t make it sound as if you are desperate for a second date, but let it come naturally in the conversation. If she had fun, she would give you hints for another date or tell you straight.

Dating advice for men is important because after all the impression you make on your woman will decide if she wants to continue with a relationship. So make the right impression by reading the above mentioned the dating advice for men, just before going out on a date.

Thursday, February 23, 2006

I Wonder...



I sit here and wonder
Why our love died,
Through the days and months
God knows we tried.

I wonder why it is
After all this time,
You're the one thing
That won't leave my mind.

I wonder how you're doing
And do you think of me..?
Or are you glad it's over
And you're finally free.

I wonder why after few months
I still cry myself to sleep,
I wonder if the pain will go
Or if it I will always keep.

I wonder if you'd come back
If you thought you could,
I wonder if you were right
We only did what we should.

I wonder if you think of me
When you hear my name,
I wonder if you have forgiven
Or are you still laying blame..?

I wonder if you care at all
That we are apart,
I wonder if you know
I love you with all my heart.

I wonder why I wonder about
The things that I do,
Maybe it's because after few months
I'm still in love with you . . .

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Perspectives......

When I take a long time I'm slow
When my boss takes a long time he's thorough

When I don't do it I'm lazy
When my boss doesn't do it he's busy

When I make a mistake, I'm an idiot.
When my boss makes a mistake, he's only human.

When I do something without being told, I'm overstepping my authority
When my boss does the same, that's initiative

When I take a stand, I'm being bull-headed
When my boss does it, he's being firm.

When I overlooked a rule of etiquette, I'm being rude
When my boss skips a few rules, he's being original

When I'm out of the office, I'm wandering around
When my boss is out of the office, he's on business

When I'm on a day off sick, I'm always sick
When your boss is a day off sick, he must be very ill

When I apply for leave, I must be going for an interview
When my boss applies for leave, it's because he's overworked

When I please my boss I'm crawling
When my boss pleases his boss, he's co-operating

When I do good, my boss never remembers
When I do wrong, my boss never forgets........

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

To be happy with.....

To be happy with a man
you must understand him a lot
& love him a little.


To be happy with a woman
you must love her a lot
& not try to understand her at all.


Married men live longer than single men,
but married men are a lot more willing to die.


Any married man should forget his mistakes
There's no use in two people remembering the same thing.

Monday, February 20, 2006

Facts About Women :)


1. Women love to shop. It is the one area of the world where they feel like they're actually in control.

2. Women especially love a bargain. The question of "need" is irrelevant, so don't bother pointing it out. Anything on sale is fair game

.3. Women never have anything to wear. Don't question the racks of clothes in the closet; you "just don't understand".

4. Women need to cry. And they won't do it alone unless they know you can hear them.

5. Women will always ask questions that have no right answer, in an effort to trap you into feeling guilty.

6. Women love to talk. Silence intimidates them and they feel a need to fill it, even if they have nothing to say.

7. Women need to feel like there are people worse off than they are. That's why soap operas and Oprah Winfrey-type shows are so successful.

8. Women hate bugs. Even the strong-willed ones need a man around when there's a spider or a wasp involved.

9. Women can't keep secrets. They eat away at them from the inside. And they don't view it as being untrustworthy, providing they only tell two or three people.

10. Women always go to public restrooms in groups. It gives them a chance to gossip.

11. Women can't refuse to answer a ringing phone, no matter what she's doing. It might be the lottery calling.

12. Women keep three different shampoos and two different conditioners in the shower.

13. After a woman showers, the bathroom will smell like a tropical rain forest.

14. Women don't understand the appeal of sports. Men seek entertainment that allows them to escape reality. Women seek entertainment that reminds them of how horrible things *could* be.

15. If a man goes on a seven-day trip, he'll pack five days worth of clothes and will wear some things twice; if a woman goes on a seven-day trip she'll pack 21 outfits because she doesn't know what she'll feel like wearing each day.

16. Women are *never* wrong. Apologizing is the mans responsibility, "It's there in the bible". hmmm who was it that gave Adam the apple?

17. Women do *not* know anything about cars. "Oil-stick, oil doesn't stick?"

18. Women have better rest rooms. They get the nice chairs and red carpet.

19. The average number of items in a typical woman's bathroom is 437. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.

20. Women love to talk on the phone. A woman can visit her girlfriend for two weeks, and upon returning home, she will call the same friend and they will talk for three hours.

21. A woman will dress up to go shopping, to water the plants, to empty the garbage, to answer the phone, to read a book, or to get the mail.

22. Women will drive miles out of their way to avoid the possibility of getting lost using a shortcut.

23. Women do NOT want an honest answer to the question, 'How do I look?'

24. If it is not Valentines day, and you see a man in a flower shop, you can probably start up a conversation by asking, "What did you do?"

25. Women cannot use a map without turning the map to correspond to the direction that they are heading.

Sunday, February 19, 2006

You have no right............



You have no right...
To ask me how I feel
You have no right …
To take me in your arms
And say you want me back
I have moved on with life
Living by my rules
You have no right……
To judge my conscious
Still hurts to look back
The way I loved you
Cared and wait for you
I left you with dignity
All for the right reasons..
Lies, deception and betrayals
Still haunts me every night
My love is too precious
To be wasted on you
There is no second chance..
You have no right….
To make me love you again

Friday, February 17, 2006

Eternal love



I wanted to shout
I wanted to cry
But I buried my sorrows
In the depths of my soul
Couldn’t stop - a tear or two
Didn’t let - the sighs to flow
I bear the pains - in my heart
Hiding the wound - that still bled
No one to heal - no one to care
Wanted to talk-But no one  to listen
Loneliness did griped - my mind
Confusion was – hard to define
I still do - remember that time
I used to believe – in eternal love . . .

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Unusual Funeral :):)


A man was leaving a cafe with his morning coffee when he noticed a
most unusual funeral procession A funeral coffin was followed by a
second one about 50 feet behind the first. Behind the second coffin was a
solitary man walking with a black dog.

Behind him was a queue of 200 men walking in single line.
The man couldn't stand his curiosity. He approached the man walking with
the dog, "I am so sorry for your loss, and I know now is a bad time to
disturb you, but I've never seen a funeral like this with so many of you
walking in single line. Whose funeral is it?"

The man replied, "Well, that first coffin is for my wife."
What happened to her?" ! The man replied, "My dog attacked and killed her."
He inquired further, "Well, who is in the second coffin?"
The man answered, "My mother-in-law. She was trying to help my wife
When the dog attacked and killed her also."

A thoughtful moment of silence passes between the two men
Then the first one asks in excitement " Can I borrow the dog ?
The man replied ......... " Join the queue " !!!!!

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

12 Sign's Of Falling In Love


The 12 Signs Of Falling In Love

Message:
12. You'll read his/her IMS over and over again...

11. You'll walk really really slow while you're with him/her...

10. You'll feel shy whenever you're withhim/her...

9. While thinking bout him/her...your heart will beat faster and faster...

8. By listening to his/her voice...you'll smilefor no reason.

7. While looking at him/her..you cant see the other people around you...you can only see
that person

6. You'll start listening to SLOW songs.

5. He/She becomes all you think about.

4. You'll get high just by their smell...

3. You'll realize that you're always smiling to yourself when you think about them..

2. You'll do anything for him/her...

1. While reading this, there was one person on your mind the whole time.


For all of you out there.....Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, February 13, 2006

It is Madness....


To hate all roses
Because you got scrached with one thorn......

To give up on your dreams
Because one did not come true......

To loose faith in prayers
Because one was not answered......

To give up on your efforts
Because one of them failed......

To condemn all your friends
Beacuse one betrayed you......

Not to believe in love
Because someone was unfaithful or didn't love you back.....

To throw away all your chances to be happy
Because you did not succeed on first attempt.......

I hope as you go on your way
You do not give in to madness...........

Remembering Always......
Another chance may come up.....
Another friend...
A new love........
A renewed strength....

Be persistent.....Look for happiness in every day......


The sure path to failure is to give up! It is often through failure that future success comes...Keep trying..........

Saturday, February 11, 2006

Strength lies......



"Strength lies in differences, not in similarities " --Stephen Covey


" The miracle is not to fly in the air, or to walk on the water; but to walk on the earth"


"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly"
-- Buddha


"You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of" --Jim Rohn



"There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year's course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word "happy" would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness" --Carl Jung

Friday, February 10, 2006

Reasons why you should not visit a 5* Hotel ?


GOOD ONE :)

Question : "What would you like to have Sir?..Fruit juice, Soda, Tea,Chocolate, Milo, or coffee?"
Answer: "tea please"
Question : " Ceylon tea, Herbal tea, Bush tea, Honey bush tea, Ice tea or green tea ?"
Answer : "Ceylon tea "
Question : "How would you like it ? black or white ?"
Answer: "white"
Question: "Milk, Whitener, or Condensed milk ?"
Answer: "With milk "
Question: "Goat milk, Camel milk or cow milk"
Answer: "With cow milk please.
Question: " Milk from Freeze land cow or Afrikaner cow?"
Answer: " Um, I'll take it black. "
Question: " Would you like it with sweetener, sugar or honey?"
Answer: "With sugar"
Question: " Beet sugar or cane sugar ?"
Answer: "Cane sugar "
Question:" White , brown or yellow sugar ?"
Answer: "Forget about tea just give me a glass of water instead.">>
Question: "Mineral water or still water ? "
Answer: "Mineral water"
Question: "Flavored or non-flavored ?"
Answer: "I'll rather die of thirst

Thursday, February 09, 2006

Women Vs Men / Apples Vs Wine

(This is for all my female friends out there and……...for the male friends who have good sense of humor...this is funny but true…)

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because .........they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good,
but easy............ The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
Now Men.... Men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and ....... it's up to women to stomp the hell out of them until they turn ....... into something acceptable to have dinner with.
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