Seven Steps to Rescuing Romance

hmm....This year is full of weddings from begining to end..all my cousins,freinds are getting married.Funny thing is that they all wanted get marry before me and have a family early....bla bla stuff and end up being last. I am the one who is laughing at them now,coz my so called family advisers seeking tips from me. Suddenly i bacame their expert,wedding planner and relationship guru.They wanted to know from designing wedding cards to how to cope with married life . So i decided to publish a book......just kidding ...as you all know i am also a newbie and still learning bitz and pieces in marriage universe.But i can't let you guys down since this is the first time you decided to ask my advice...did a little research and find this article interesting from Oprah.com

Seven Steps to Rescuing Romance

Try one every day of the week, focus on one at a time, do whatever you like with them—but do take them all to heart.

1. Find Out What You Want Are you meeting your partner's needs? Are your needs being met? What are they? After you know partner's needs, if you find yourselves still frustrated, realize that it's not that you can't meet your partner's needs, it's that you won't. Think about why you haven't yet.

2. Respect Your Partner It shouldn't matter why your partner needs what he or she needs. Consider Dr. Phil's example: If one of your kids got up in the middle of the night and said, "I'm thirsty," would you just turn around and say, "Well, I'm not, so go back to bed"? The key is to appreciate your partner's individuality. Don't expect your partner to react exactly as you would; your partner isn't you! 3. What Message Do You Send? Think about the message you are sending your partner when you don't acknowledge his or her wants. How does this make your partner feel? How would it make you feel?

4. Compromise. Know that you can fulfill your partner's wants. But by prioritizing your needs alone, you're making the conscious decision to not to fulfil his or her wants. Try talking about both of your needs and wants. Find the middle ground.

5. Don't Forget Romance Keep in mind that romance is an important element of marriage. Your partner might consider romance as the true measure of his or her value to your relationship. Be thoughtful and try doing something sweet for no apparent reason.

6. Remember the 4-minute rule You can predict the rest of the night based on the first 4 minutes, so make those minutes count! Bring flowers. Greet each other with a compliment. Ask questions about your partner's day. Smile; it'll make a difference.

7. Open Up Be communicative and expressive with your partner. Remember, sharing emotions is not weakness; it makes you whole.