HOW MEN AND WOMEN DIFFER

NICKNAMES* If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah.* If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes

EATING OUT* When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $50, even though it's only for $115.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.* When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

MONEY* A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.* A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need but it's on sale

BATHROOMS* A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel from Dischem.* The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.

ARGUMENTS* A woman has the last word in any argument.* Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument

CATS* Women love cats.* Men say they love cats, but when women aren't looking, men kick cats.

FUTURE* A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.* A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

SUCCESS* A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.* A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

MARRIAGE* A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.* A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, but she does.

DRESSING UP* A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the bins, answer the phone, read a book, and get the post.* A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

NATURAL* Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.* Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

OFFSPRING* Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favourite foods, secret-fears and hopes and dreams.* A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY* Any married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing.

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON ??????????

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, " How do I know if I married the right person ?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, " It Depends. Is that your husband?

In all seriousness, she answered " How do you know?"Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's Weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,you fell in love with... Your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted...their touch, and liked.... Their idiosyncrasies......Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. Infact, it was a Completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening...TO YOU...

People in love sometimes say, " I was swept of my feet." Think about the Imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing There; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the Natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls Become a bother ( if they come at all), touch is notalways welcome ( when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you Think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and or your spouse might start asking, " Did I marry The right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of The love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for theirUnhappiness and look outside their marriage forfulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is> The most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage.It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You Could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because ( listen carefully to this)

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous> experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find " LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it Takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.There are specific Things you can do ( with or without your spouse ) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), There are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise Program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your Relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... You can " make" love.


Love in marriage is indeed a " decision"... Not just a feeling.

Interesting facts about Marriage

Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.

Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached

When a newly married man looks happy, we know why. But when a ten-year married man looks happy, we wonder why.

Love is one long sweet dream, and marriage is the alarm clock.

Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other person has, you wish you had ordered that.

After a quarrel, a husband said to his wife, "You know, I was a fool when I married you." She replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love and didn't notice."

Married life is full of excitement and frustration: In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens.* In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens.* In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

• Son: How much does it cost to get married, Dad?
• Father: I don't know son, I'm still paying for it.

Marriage requires a man to prepare 4 types of "rings":

• The Engagement Ring
• The Wedding Ring
• The Suffe-Ring
• The Endu-Ring